Friends Come and Go...

No one likes to get that dreaded phone call or message ... "I have some sad news ..... has passed away ...."   That message came to me just this last weekend.  It was shocking to say the least.  There were 5 or 6 of us that were very close.  We played softball together, we hung out, we went to the movies, dinner, had game night ... we created some very good and long lasting memories.   And then for whatever reason, life took us all our separate ways and as often times happens, we lost touch with each other.  It doesn't mean we forgot about each other, our lives were just meant for a different journey.

Funny how God works sometimes.  Two weeks ago, we celebrated and honored the Saints in our lives.  This last Sunday, Reverend Leon Kelly, our visiting pastor spoke on “Today, Yesterday’s Tomorrow,” based on the text from James 4:8-17.  As I've reflected over the last few weeks and days about the messages that I've heard and the people who have come and gone in my life, the following poem came to mind, perhaps you have heard it before??

Reason, Season, or Lifetime

People come into your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime.

When you figure out which one it is,
you will know what to do for each person.

When someone is in your life for a REASON,                                                                                                        it is usually to meet a need you have expressed.

They have come to assist you through a difficulty;
to provide you with guidance and support;
to aid you physically, emotionally or spiritually.
They may seem like a godsend, and they are.
They are there for the reason you need them to be.

Then, without any wrongdoing on your part or at an inconvenient time,

this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end.
Sometimes they die. Sometimes they walk away.
Sometimes they act up and force you to take a stand.
What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled; their work is done.
The prayer you sent up has been answered and now it is time to move on.

Some people come into your life for a SEASON,
because your turn has come to share, grow or learn.
They bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh.
They may teach you something you have never done.
They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy.
Believe it. It is real. But only for a season.

                                                                                      LIFETIME relationships teach you lifetime lessons;
things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation.
Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person,
and put what you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas of your life.
It is said that love is blind but friendship is clairvoyant.

— Unknown

It has been said, that Life and Death can bring people together.  That has been the case for me this week.  While death is and can be a sad time, it can also be a time of thanks.  I am thankful for the opportunity to come together with people who made an imprint on my heart.  None of us are ever the same from day to day.  While my friend will be dearly missed, I am thankful for the memories we shared and I am thankful that it has brought about new conversations and new relationships that will create new memories all there own.  Friends may come and go from our lives but one thing is constant, God said himself, "Never will I leave you; never will I forsake you." (Hebrews 13:5 and Deuteronomy 31:6).  So no matter who may cross our path, one thing is certain, we will ALWAYS have a LIFETIME friend in Jesus.

Dear God, we give thanks for those who have come before us, for those with us and those yet to come. Whether its mere minutes, hours, days or longer, we ask that you allow our gifts to flow to those we meet as well as allow our hearts to be open to the gifts that may be offered to us.  Lord, please help us to remember that today is a precious gift, a gift from You.  Thank You for your Son, a Lifetime friend.  In your name we pray, Amen.

 April Schauer

(I would also like to thank Julie Weldon for the use of her piece "Seasons".  It is one of my favorite pieces and immediately came to mind while reflecting on things this week, it just seemed so fitting to me.  It along with other pieces can be viewed at and

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1. julie wrote:
Thanks April for sharing this poem and your personal story.

Fri, November 18, 2011 @ 1:49 PM

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