Be Kind to Yourself

“Have patience with all things, but chiefly have patience with yourself.  Do not lose courage in considering your own imperfections but instantly set about remedying them –every day begin the task anew.” 

~ Saint Francis de Sales

Ah, patience. We learn early on that it’s a virtue and that we must practice it.  After all, we hear “good things come to those who wait.”  But being patient is much easier said than done. Waiting on others or things out of our control is difficult but we wrestle with it and give it our best. We ask for the Holy Spirit to gift us with patience, one of the fruits of the spirit (Galatians 5:22).  We remember Paul’s words in 1 Corinthians that “love is patient.”  (1 Cor 13:4)  We seek to be patient, loving and kind with others.

I think it’s the “patience with self” that I find the most challenging. That’s why the quote above resonates with me.  I resemble these words of Paul so much: “I do not understand my own actions. For I do not do what I want, but I do the very thing I hate.” (Romans 7:15) I find being patient with myself and having unrealistic self-expectations something I deal with on a regular basis.   At the beginning of a new year it seems this is magnified.  Why didn’t I do last year what I meant to? Why didn’t I keep all my resolutions?  I give thanks for the gift of God in my baptism that I might begin each day (hour, minute or second) anew through the grace and mercy poured out through the living waters. 

Paul’s prayer for the church in Ephesus, written in the 3rdchapter of Ephesians is one I turn to again and again in times of impatience.  May it bless you this day:

“…I bow my knees before the Father, from whom every family in heaven and on earth takes its name.  I pray that, according to the riches of his glory, he may grant that you may be strengthened in your inner being with power through his Spirit, and that Christ may dwell in your hearts through faith, as you are being rooted and grounded in love.  I pray that you may have the power to comprehend, with all the saints, what is the breadth and length and height and depth, and to know the love of Christ that surpasses knowledge, so that you may be filled with all the fullness of God.  Now to him who by the power at work within us is able to accomplish abundantly far more than all we can ask or imagine, to him be glory in the church and in Christ Jesus to all generations,  forever and ever. Amen.”  (Ephesians 3:14-21) 

Be kind to yourself,


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